08 November, 2022

Changes

We've been gone for a few weeks; we traveled to New England to spend time with my parents. It's been the first time in a VERY LONG while that we've traveled without a canine companion. This, among other changes, is but one more in a long list of new things what we're getting used to. My Dad now does much of the cooking at home. When I was young, growing up, and even up until the last few years, my Dad NEVER spent anytime in the kitchen preparing food, that's always been Mom's domain. My mother is doing okay, it's the physical mobility that stands in the way of her getting even the most basic of household chores accomplished anymore. She and I spent days cleaning out and organizing; she is happy to have this done, and was eager to participate, but the fact that she can't do it on her own anymore is emotionally hard on her. She goes to outpatient physical therapy now, twice a week; that's a highlight for her on those days. Mr. G and I took meals that I had pre-prepared, and frozen, it worked out well and they seemed to appreciate that. A lot of things are different now, we're all adapting; it seems that each day brings a new series of adaptations. The good news is that Mom and Dad seem content and accepting of this situation. We watched television together in the evenings, for entertainment, and loved spending time together reminiscing! Before we left to return home Dad and Mr. G readied his snowplow and walk-behind snow blower for the months to come, Dad's happy and excited to see winter, and the snow, return; as much so as a young boy would be! We have much to be thankful for: at 94 (Dad), and 89 (Mom), they're still in their home, are mobile enough to go out for lunch and an occasional dinner and still very much enjoy their friends and their days together. We couldn't ask for anything more.
Life is Good!


8 comments:

Elle said...

Blessed indeed! So awesome you are able to go visit and help them.

Janet O. said...

Sounds like you had a sweet visit with your parents. Hard to see those changes come for people we love, but what a blessing that at 94 your Dad is able to take over as head chef! I'll bet they were very grateful for your time with them!

LizA. said...

Transitions are definitely tough. Steve’s mother had to move from her assisted living apartment to a smaller facility where she could get more one-on-care. It’s been a tough transition for her. She too, has mobility issues. I applaud your parents for being able to continue living in their home.

cityquilter grace said...

i thought perhaps you had been traveling...good to hear your parents are doing as well as can be expected. so delighted they are able to still live independently and are making adjustments as need be. change is hard for everyone but especially for such advanced seniors i would imagine...so it's all good news then...am sure your dad will get plenty of fun with his toys this winter...LOL

Quiltdivajulie said...

Sending hugs of understanding . . . the distance makes your connections more challenging but every one of those moments (phone, in person, online, etc.) is priceless.

Sherrill said...

Oh WOW! How blessed you are to have your parents still and that they are still able to be in their home. I don't get your dad, though, excited to see the snow and actually do the clearing himself! UGH I cannot stand the cold (Texas is often too cold for me!). Do you have siblings that live close to your folks?

Kyle said...

What a blessing to spend time with your parents. Change can be hard no matter what age we are. I hope we all can remain youthful in our thinking.

Tanya said...

How wonderful for your parents that you could spend time helping them. I can understand a bit about how hard it is to give up your lifelong chores (such as cooking) and let someone else step in. It is wonderful for the first few days but it gets one down when it may not be a situation that will change back. I hope your parents will stay in good health and spirits throughout the winter.